Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

1    Be specific when setting goals – know exactly what you want to achieve and how you will achieve it

2    Decide in advance when will you take the actions aimed towards your goal. Even better, do it as soon as an opportunity arises

3    Check your progress and know exactly how far you have left to go

4    Be a realistic optimist – believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful, but don’t underestimate, how difficult it will be or you’ll end up ill-prepared

5    Focus on developing abilities and acquiring new skills rather than goals

6    Have grit – a willingness to commit to long-term goals and persist in the face of difficulty. Think Naruto

7    Build your willpower muscle by doing something you’d rather not do. Later, increase your workout

8    Willpower muscle is limited – don’t try too hard or you’ll run out of steam. Don’t make reaching a goal harder than it already is.

9    If you’re trying to change a habit, replace bad habits with good ones instead of focusing your thoughts on the bad ones.

 SAUCE

Alone vs. dependent

I still don't know what I am. I feel some potential, but the underachiever in me might just let it fade away. But what I figured I have to know is that I am supposed to be alone. Before I started school I pretty much played by myself and never had a problem with that. In fact, I was more independent than I am now. Throughout my school years I got used to bonding. Now I have some friends I am very loyal to. We don't communicate for most time but we're OK with that. Almost through my third year in university, I have now acquired only two persons I call friends. I have striven to reach the level I was at as a child.

Actually... This is false. It's all good that I have a piece of mind even when alone, but social connections are the key in my scope of life. I am too dumb to pursue any scientific goals, so I can't afford to get secluded. Business is contacts, internal company rapport is informal communication. There is no escaping. Just gotta make sure you're surrounded by the right kind of people. Relationships bring dependency and I trust people a little too much. "Deceive me and I will annihilate you :)"?

Contradicting your own beliefs. Good job, boy.  Well, as long as I keep that mug of mine thinking. Gotta learn to operate in an ambiguous environment. I like motorcycles :)))

February 14.

I really have no need for a better half.

I suffice and so does an increasing number of the Japanese: pow! eat this!

Marriage.

I was thinking... Once the gay marriage is legal, how long until marriage with anyone? Say, I love my best friend. We are both males, heterosexuals, but we want a family together. We adopt a child and provide him with home and family. Is there a problem with that? And then, to go even further, I, for instance, really love the Sun. More than any other thing in the world. Why couldn't I marry something I love?

Religion.

Suradau senas savo mintis apie religija. Geda kalbeti tokia tema, galo cia nebus, bet stai mano nuomone vis dar yra butent tokia - kad religija yra gerai, o krikscionybe yra zmogaus produktas.

The point in everything is what I make it to be, not what somebody tells it me it is.
So your church teaches you that God is in control of your destiny rather than yourself? Sorry for a silly example, but did God have a plan for murderers etc.? No, wait - it's rather they are lost lambs but they can choose to be led by God, right?
I wish God would correct 'the incorrect', but why hasn't it? How? To me it just adds up to the fact that religion is just an artificial thing you can take up. You can believe in anything and through your belief it will come true. It's a very interesting engine, but, in the sense of religion, it hasn't been used for good purposes in quite a while.
It's more of a habit for me, still calling out God's name from time to time. I believe God is a creation of man. It works the same way stories in the bible were created to teach, rather then just bullet-points a man might not get the technique, but he will believe something that has some 'meat around the bone'. Most of the people must know there is a higher power they can rely on. Is this about the magnitude of control and responsibility? Not just everyone can handle it. In my sense, we are Gods of this world, we are our own Gods capable of but able or willing to transform ourselves into whatever we choose to. "The Bible also says to say things as though they were" - exactly. I've managed to realise the system behind religion, to purify and to amplify and I am trying hard to enable myself to put it to my use, but the religion itself, to me, it is overly-manipulative, simplistic and yet swarmed with augmented information, making it suited for dimwits of the last ages.

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Krikscionybe yra labai ir labai reikalinga (tikejimas, religija). Jeigu manot, kad ji neduoda nieko gero, atsigulkit ant nugaros ir kokia diena gerai gerai apie tai pagalvokit.
Kazkada ir pats galvojau, kad religija yra blogis. Taip, ji sukurta (labai protingu zmoniu). Religija padeda zmonijai. Jei nebutu buve dievobaimingumo, butu buvus betvarke. Taisykles zinojo visi. Ir bent pusei Lietuvos gyventoju jos vis dar padeda. Svarbiausia, zmogui nepakeliama suvokti, kad pasaulis neturi prasmes, po mirties nieko nera, tik biologija, kad zmogus atsakingas uz absoliuciai viska, kad nera nieko aukstesnio, priziurincio ji (cia atkrenta tikejimas i save, nes zmones visumoje nepasitiki savo jegomis). Dauguma zmoniu negali netiketi likimu, o siuo atveju, Dievu. O tikejimas Dievu yra pozityvus mastymas: "Jis zino, ka daro, stengiasi del manes, viskas tik i gera". O meldimosi instrumentas yra ko gero geriausia dalis. Pirmiausia del meditacijos, mantros kartojimo. Toliau stiprus kasvakarinis minciu sutelkimas i trokstamus ivykius/dalykus yra labai veiksnu.
O jusu paziuros yra siauros. Tikriausiai isivaizduojat esantys gudruoliai, draskotes, moksliskai neigiat akivaizdybe ir galvojat, kad ateizmas jau yra didzio intelekto pozymis. As sypsausi, kokie jus visi kvaili :)

Life is the ultimate game.

Life is the ultimate game. Thinking about it thrills me. Nobody knows the rules if there are any. Nobody knows they are in it. People participate without playing and they don't move anywhere or just let others roll the dice for them.  Funny. Like being dead before death. Those others leading, might not know all the rules but they actively participate, they play to win and they have the experience. They take risks. They never stop. They never give up. There is no finish line, there is being high above to overlook everything. Don't you want that? Do you want it bad? Will you say good-bye to procrastination and do things even when you don't need to do anything? Will you constantly learn? Will you find ways when there aren't any? Do what you are afraid to do? Can you do all this all alone, for yourself? Call me when you're ready, we'll be partners.

A perfect girl for me

It's time I wrote about a woman I am... Wait. Not looking for - camping for (waiting :D ). Well it's not about this now :)

I had some time to contemplate this in my subconscious. I realized I want to write this some time ago. But this is the latest thing to come to me: what I need is a woman who brings out the best in me, continuously through the life. For that she has to be pretty darn smart. Emotionally intelligent, to be able to see through my thick shell. A woman who makes me want to be the best man, not even for her but for no apparent purpose. A woman who nudges me and proves to me that I have to get up when I don't want to do anything. A woman whose sheer existence makes me want to enjoy, no, celebrate life. Far-fetched, no? :)

LOOKS
Anyway, to me, looks come first. Not the only thing I care about, not the most important one, but  always first. I want someone beside me who I find really attractive. Whose face I can never look enough at. And curves; oh boy! :) 

To go into more detail, I noticed that I, as majority of men, am attracted to blondes. Long hair! Then, my guess is, I would probably prefer my lady to be as tall as me. Which is pretty tall. It's so uncomfortable to kiss someone a head shorter than you without putting on a step :D Not the reason, though. 

Then, I desire an athletic one. As me, or even more. It's not about common interests (although exercising is the way to go!) - it's about that body. And very much as well about the opposite of it: I don't care how skinny (or even curvy? I'm unsettled about writing this in) you are - if your muscles are degraded, there is little attractiveness for me. And when the opposite is true! Hubba Hubba! To add more, imagine two such bodies in bed! As opposed to anything that's not it. Feh. Oh, but I am also sexually attracted to petite women! Just don't see them as a partner. Silly me. 

What else is there? Big white eyes. Oh, I can go as far as eyelids. Double eyelids. Period. I don't dig anything else really. Oh oh oh, and full lips! A must. I am wooed by full lips. I heard that the owners are more physically sensitive as well. If you know what I mean. Hourglass body, long legs, proportionate hips. As for breasts, it's the shape that matters to me. Big is not attractive. Just stereotyped into men's skulls. Nope, I'm wrong, men are naturally attracted to big busts. They can't even listen properly when they get to gaze upon one. As research has shown. 

To continue, I don't even contemplate a heavy makeup wearer. I understand it's important to look beautiful. But I am annoyed by what I see as overdoing it. I guess the same goes for picking clothes. If one is sexy, she'll look good in anything, even cargo pants and oversized t-shirt. So to me, dressing provocatively ≠ dressing in style. Oh, by the way, I have a weakness of surrendering to striped underwear :F 

Continuing. I don't understand high heels, unless it's a ball. Not that I have something against. Just don't fall behind when I walk my usual 40mph ;) Speaking of which, I am very attentive to posture and how she walks. A woman has to appear like a woman, to proclaim it, even. Some women I pass don't even give this off from their body language. Nothing about her says she's a woman but some of her looks. I want the whole posture to say 'I am a strong and successful woman'. Not meek. Nobody likes meek.

Beautiful teeth also drive me crazy. And my latest thing is cheekbones. Probably because mine aren't that prominent.So where does this take us? To most of us men, face is what's the most important in a woman's looks. And I love how much I can read out from it :)



TO BE CONTINUED...

Oh, P.S. 'russian unicorn' definition on Urban Dictionary ;)